I've been reading lots about decision-making science lately, because these days the tough decisions I advise students and their families about have gotten so much tougher. How do you calm the fear that is clouding your judgement, while also realistically evaluating the best facts available?
Keep reading for the highlights of how behavioral science can help you make good choices. But first, I have an invitation for you.
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So, what's the best way to proceed with a decision that has huge uncertainty and equally huge stakes? Here's the skinny:
Are you mashing several decisions together into one big choice? For example, are you trying to decide if college is worth it at all, while also deciding what to major in, while also attempting to figure out which college is the best place to be during a pandemic? This will make you crazy, and it will be nearly impossible to get a clear picture.
Creating an environment for good decision-making requires first thinking about what criteria you will use to evaluate your choices. Do you know what is most important, and what factors are a distraction?
You can't choose between vague generalities. Keep working to outline the details of different choices until you are choosing between specific situation A ("I will use savings and a part-time job to start college online this fall at Local State.") and specific situation B ("I will use a student loan to go full time at Fancy U this fall.")
A ranking system is far more useful than a simple "Pros and Cons" list. For each of the priorities you identified, give each option a score based on how well it matches, or helps you to achieve, that priority.
Where are there major uncertainties that could mean your rankings are wrong, or could change? For those big questions, are there ways that you could get more information to reduce the uncertainty?
When a decision is really important, it's a good idea to ask someone outside your usual circle to take a look at your thinking. Find someone who is likely to have a very different perspective than yours—they can bring new information and ideas to the conversation.
For those uncertainties, play out what you would do for different scenarios. For example, "If Fancy U. doesn't do on-campus classes this fall, then I will give up my deposit and go to Local State instead."
As I say all the time, you don't have to be sure, but you do have to decide! The great thing about life is that if you make a choice you don't like, you can almost always make a new choice later. But success almost always depends on how committed you are, so pick something you can really get behind.
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